I watched Finding Dory with my family on the weekend at a screening for the vision and hearing impaired. It was a lovely, accessible event and my kids enjoyed the chance to see a movie in a safe and supportive setting.

I’m not sure whether it was because we were in a special needs setting, but I was struck with the positive way in which disability was portrayed throughout the film. I was especially impressed with the portrayal of Dory’s parents, who were depicted as caring, generous and positive special needs parents.

Now Dory, in case you have not seen Finding Nemo or its sequel, suffers from short term memory loss which affects nearly every part of her life. She forget things immediately, is often disorientated and relies on others to help her through every day life.

Her parents dealt with this beautifully in the flashback sequences. They were understanding. They were patient. They were loyal. They were kind. And they did all they could to change their environment to better suit Dory and her needs. They did not try to change HER, or ignore/minimise her real struggles.

They worked with her strengths and never, ever blamed her or considered her a burden in any way.

In other words, they were the ultimate example of positive special needs parenting.

I have to confess that I bawled my eyes out a few times during the course of the screening as I could relate to so much of what Dory’s parents were going through. They were terrified for the future yet were doing all they could to keep her safe and working out the best ways they could to teach her to find her way home and to navigate the environment around her.

Things that we are also trying to do with our own kids right now.

I strive to be a positive parent, I really do. And most of the time I can see the good, amongst the not so good, in our lives.

Most of the time I look for my kids’ strengths and try to work on those rather than continually point out and emphasise their weaknesses. Most of the time I try to remain positive and focus on the end goal of increasing their independence and trying to set them up for the best possible life.

But I’m not perfect and sometimes it’s hard to continue on when you have so many battles to face as a special needs parent.

The battles to get a diagnosis for your child. The battles to access treatment for their diagnosis.

The battles with school to access required supports to maximise their learning.

The battles with family and friends to have your child’s needs understood and accepted.

The battles to find appropriate social opportunities for them.

The battles to make and keep friends. The battles to balance the many different needs of your family.

Sometimes it’s hard to find positives at all when you seem to be forever fighting on all fronts.

FINDING DORY: an example of positive special needs parenting - myhometruths.com

However, there are some practical ways you can find the positives in special needs parenting and I have shared 7 strategies of my own with the wonderful Lisa Lightner from A Day in our Shoes. She is the queen of IEPs and disability advocacy in the US so take the time to check out all the practical resources on her site.


7 ways to find the positives in special needs parenting


I’d love for you to check out my post, give me some feedback on my strategies and share your own ways to remain positive in the face of the challenges of special needs parenting.

Re-reading my own words and watching Finding Dory on the weekend has further reinforced my desire to be a positive special needs parent. To be understanding, kind, resourceful, determined, loyal, persistent and proactive.

To find the positives everyday and to be strong enough to support my kids through everything.

Just like Dory’s parents, Jenny and Charlie.


Have you seen Finding Dory yet? Did you get emotional watching it too?